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How NOT to win a contest

Posted by Bananas On September - 15 - 2008

So you’ve been nominated for a contest and you really, really want to win.

You know you probably won’t win on your own merit, because let’s face it, you’re really not all that good.

But why should how deserving you are have ANYTHING to do with winning?

What’s an unethical blogger to do?

HOW NOT TO WIN A CONTEST:

  1. Email people that you haven’t talked to in 6+ months and ask them to vote for you.
  2. Email people who you don’t really know but you happen to have their email address and ask them to vote for you.
  3. If people don’t vote for you after the first email, keep emailing them until they do. Fill up their inbox! THAT will make them want to vote for you.
  4. Email everyone you know and all the people you hardly know and ask them to make up fake accounts in order to vote for you.
  5. Ask people to forward your email to all the people they know (and even the ones they hardly know) asking THOSE people to vote for you.
  6. Email all the bloggers who have more traffic than you do and ask them to dedicate a post on their blog to you and your contest. They owe it to you, after all, because they have traffic and you don’t.
  7. If you email bloggers and ask them to post about you, and then they don’t, keep emailing them. If you email them enough times they’ll probably change their mind.
  8. Set up a Facebook account called “VOTE FOR ME” and invite all your Facebook friends to join it.
  9. The last day of the contest, start a contest countdown. Email everyone hourly reminders about voting and faking voting and forwarding the email to their friends. You don’t have anything better to do, so they probably don’t either.

Did I forget anything?

(You realize that this is sarcastic, right? RIGHT?)

Jenny Blackburn. All Rights Reserved.

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Catch more of Jenny Blackburns humorous anecdotes on being a mom, a woman, and a whole lot crazy at Absolutely Bananas. If you have questions, anecdotes, or topics for On Blogging, email jenny[@]seattlemomblogs[dot]com.

The Bloggy Chiropractor, Step 3: Analyze and refocus

Posted by Bananas On September - 9 - 2008

This is step 3 in The Bloggy Chiropractor 3-step program, in which we work on correcting our blog/life balance.

In this session, we’re going to focus on analyzing our blogging. Then we’ll use this self-analysis to make positive change.

Ready?

Good.

Analyze it

Pull out a clean sheet of paper and a good pen. Put on some jazzy music and pour yourself a glass of wine. It’s time for some introspection, baby!

Think about these questions.

1) Why do I blog?

2) What about blogging stresses me out?

3) What do I do under the guise of “blogging” purely because of habit, or because I think I should?

4) What do I truly enjoy about blogging?

5) What are my goals from blogging?

These are tough questions, so don’t expect that you’ll get them answered all pat with your t’s crossed and i’s dotted the first go-round. Take a stab and then let it simmer for a few days. Revisit your answers and make edits. When you feel good about your list, move on to the next step.

Refocus

Pull out the brainstorming you did. I’m going to walk you through how to use that information to refocus your blogging efforts.

1) Why do you blog

Look at the reasons that you wrote down. Evaluate each reason for the following:

- is this healthy?
- is this realistic?
- is this maintainable?
- is blogging the best way to accomplish this goal?

This isn’t easy. These questions require a lot of self-reflection and honesty. But it’s worth it.

2) What about blogging stresses me out?

3) What do I do under the guise of “blogging” purely because of habit, or because I think I should?

The next part is easy. I want you to look at what you wrote down for #2 and #3.

Now stop doing every single one of them. Seriously, STOP. Don’t do those things until you feel like you want to again. No matter how important you think they are.

You know what? Youprobably won’tmiss them.

4) What do I truly enjoy about blogging?

Now that you’ve cut out a whole lot of stuff from #2 and #3, you have more time. Give yourself permission to spend MORE time doing the things that you enjoy.

Every time you feel drawn to do something under #2 or #3, consult this list and choose something here instead.

5) What are my goals for blogging?

Look at your blog as it is today. Is this blog in line with your goals? If not, how can you bring it in line with your goals?

Create an action plan of at least three concrete things you can do to move your blogging activities more in line with your long-term goals.

To infinity and beyond

I wish I could say “goodbye and you’re healed.”

But the truth is, this is a process.

The next time you feel like you’re getting in over your head, do a bloggy detox and take a 2-week vacation. Or re-read step 2. Or go through the answers for step 3. Or redo the whole process.

It’s your turn

Now I want to hear from you… your thoughts on the process. Where are you at? What are you excited about? Let’s motivate and inspire each other, shall we?

Jenny Blackburn. All Rights Reserved.

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Catch more of Jenny Blackburns humorous anecdotes on being a mom, a woman, and a whole lot crazy at Absolutely Bananas. If you have questions, anecdotes, or topics for On Blogging, email jenny[@]seattlemomblogs[dot]com.

The Bloggy Chiropractor, Step 2: Controlled blogging

Posted by Bananas On September - 2 - 2008

This is step2 in The Bloggy Chiropractor 3-step program, in which we work on correcting our blog/life balance.

For the first part of this journey, you were told totake a 2-week blog vacation.

Did you do it?

If yes, good for you! Now we can get down to the rest of the readjustment.

If no, I’m sorry butI have to tell youthat youDO NOT PASS GO. DO NOT COLLECT $200. GO DIRECTLY TO JAIL. And by “jail” I mean, step 1. You should be ashamed of yourself.

For the rest of us,

Now that you have some perspective, and maybe even a clean closet, it’s time for step 2.

During the bloggy vacation you might have found that it was uncomfortable at times. You found yourself with a few minutes and nothing to do and your instinct was to turn to the computer… but wait! You’re on vacation from that!

This discomfort is good, because it means that you are RETRAINING yourself. Your old (BAD) habit is to turn to blogging all the time. You are creating new (GOOD) habits in which you refocus on life.

You know you’re on the right track when you have an hour before bed and you decide to pick up the house… plan dinner for tomorrow…read a book… use that dusty old treadmill…

Once you get to this point, you’ll remember how it was that you USED to get things done. You did them.

You are on the path to recovery.

In step 2, we will reintroduce blogging while keeping it from becoming an all-consuming life-sucking creature.

There are two options for doing this. Choose the one that feels most comfortable for you.

Option 1: scheduled blogging

In option 1, we set a firm schedule for blogging and stick to it. Maybe it’s every evening from 9-11pm. Or in the morning at 6am. Or during the kids’ naps for an hour. Whatever makes sense to you; the trick here is to set a schedule (write it down! post it!) and then follow it.

Option 2: blogging within guidelines

Option 2 is more flexible, less rigid, but possibly more risky. It can easily morph into out-of-control, addictive blogging, so watch yourself.

In this option, we prioritize blogging by settingclear guidelines about when and how much we blog.

For example, “I blog for no more than45 minutes each day,” or “I may only blog if I’ve exercised and the dishes are done,” or”I only blog when I’ve accomplished three items from my to-do list for the day.”

The trick is to create guidelines that are:

Explicit - it should be absolutely crystal clear when you can and cannot blog. Nothing wishy-washy like, “I’ll blog when I have most of my stuff done.”

Realistic- set guidelines that you can actually follow. Although it would be nice to say that we’ll only blog after we’ve done EVERYTHING on our to-do list, if your list is like mine,that’s just not gonna happen.

Making yourself accountable

For both of these options, the trick is inpolicing our own behavior. As you and I both know, we wouldn’t be in this three-step program if we were good at that!

First off, write down your guidelines and post them in a visible place. Tell your family members so that they can keep you accountable.

Remember that list of things that you need and want to do, that you made in step 1? Keep that list! Hang it next to your guidelines! Each and every time you find yourself sneaking over to the computer, look at the list and pick something else to do besides blogging.

Jenny Blackburn. All Rights Reserved.

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Catch more of Jenny Blackburns humorous anecdotes on being a mom, a woman, and a whole lot crazy at Absolutely Bananas. If you have questions, anecdotes, or topics for On Blogging, email jenny[@]seattlemomblogs[dot]com.

Quiet, Please

Posted by Stacy On August - 25 - 2008

I went on my first meditation retreat last month. I saw Sharon Salzberg speak, and spent two days not speaking myself.

Let me clarify this was a non-residential retreat, meaning there were no overnight stays. It was more like a 9 to 5 thing.

So, I didn’t speak for the hours I was at the retreat. No one did (except for Sharon).

There are times when silence has the loudest voice.
Leroy Brownlow

Well, even that’s not exactly true. There was the guy who told us where the bathrooms were and to not eat in the speaking hall and who introduced Sharon. And there were the people who I signed in with. I could talk to them.

At retreats, I learned, this practice is called Noble Silence. It’s described as a quieting of the body and voice that can help cultivate a calm and peaceful environment and enhance concentration and awareness.

During one of her talks, Sharon asked us how the not-talking was going. (It was a rhetorical question.)

Then she told an anecdote about being on longer retreats, for seven days, ten days, three months. During these retreats, students talk to the teacher during their one-on-one interviews. She said that almost everyone comes into their one-on-one interview and freaks out about not talking.

I don’t think I can do it!

My partner doesn’t think I can do it.

My coworkers have a betting pool on whether I’ll last.

Everyone laughed.

(It’s okay to laugh.)

The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.
Rachel Naomi Remen

After two days, I found the not-talking refreshing. It was a relief to not have spend all that energy advertising myself and making small talk. It gave me space to connect to the underlying energy between people and beings.

So now I’ve started trying to bring more silence into my home life.

I know, right?

How is that possible with two kids five and under?

I call it Begin with Silence… I try to start the day, and all my interactions, with the intention of silence. For me, at home, my goal isn’t so much as to not talk as it is to become aware of how much I talk and my motivations for talking. For me, it’s about listening, to myself and those around me.

Thus, every other day, I begin with silence…

Instead of calling out, Time to eat! I walk over to my son, smile, and gesture to the kitchen.

* * *

After hearing myself ask, Did you have fun playing with so-n-so? I recognize my desire to connect with my son and to hear his point of view.

* * *

When I start freaking out and feel a tirade coming on (usually when I am hungry and trying to make food while my children clamor around me, climb on the table, or hurt each other), I tell myself, Stop talking. This won’t do anyone any good.

* * *

I could teach my kids about counting to 1000 for all the times I say their names with a chiding tone, Mi-caaa and Or-LAN-do. Cutting those exclamations out of our day is a huge relief.

* * *

Instead of telling my older kid to leave my younger kid alone (then why don’t I leave the older one alone?!), I recognize my desire for harmony in my home, and scoop up my older son with a smile.

* * *

Orlando, who is newly five, responds really well to my silences the times when I am centered and in touch. When I am quiet inside, he can feel it. He actually whispers back to me with this little dopey smile on his face. Not saying words is nothing compared to making this connection.

Read more of Stacy’s sincere and silly missives about parenting from the heart at Mama-Om. If you have questions, anecdotes, or topics for Crazy Much? email stacy[@]seattlemomblogs[dot]com. I’d love to hear from you!

The beautiful painting is by . Used with permission under creative commons license.

The Bloggy Chiropractor, Step 1: Take two weeks off

Posted by Bananas On August - 19 - 2008

This is step 1 in The Bloggy Chiropractor 3-step program, in which we work on correcting our blog/life balance.

For the first part of this journey, the bloggychiropractor prescribes that you take a MANDATED blog vacation of a minimum of 2 weeks.

WHAT!?! you may gasp, TWO WEEKS?! I CAN’T DO THAT!

I’m here to tell you that you can.

And you should.

It’ll be good for you. Seriously.

I know because I did it.

And now I’m here to walk you through it.

Why a blog vacation?

Taking at least two weeks off from blogging is the natural starting place on this journeybecause it gives us a little thing called perspective. It’s really, really hard… impossible, even… to have perspective when we’re down in the trenches of bad habits. It’s only when we come up for air and start living life again that we can see clearly.

I am mandating two weeks (minimum!) because we need at least that long to really get perspective. One week is too short. And although four weeks would be EVEN BETTER… let’s be honest. If I told you to take a month, would you? I didn’t think so.

How to take a blog vacation

But what about my blog?!

The easiest way to take a blog vacationis to just stop blogging- cold turkey- for two weeks. I honestly think that for most of us this little blip in our blogging activity would go relatively unnoticed in the grand old blogosphere.

However. If you’re too scared to do this (like me!) another option is to sit down for a couple of hours and write out enough posts to carry your blog through during the time that you’ll be actively NOT blogging. Set the posts to go up automatically and then don’t look back. Trust me, your readers will never know that you’re not really there behind the curtain.

But what will I DO?!

Now, before you kick off your vacation, I want you to write out a list of all the things you’ve been wanting and needing to do.

…organize the closet
…submit an article for publication
…start an exercise program
…research a new camera
…read that one book
…sign up for salsa dancing lessons

We all have those things that we’ve had on the back burner for a year or two or twenty… write them down! Star the ones that you’re excited about. Decorate your list using markers and stickers and fancy paper. Get excited about the possibility of GETTING STUFF DONE!

Now post the list on the fridge or (better) over the top of your computer screen.

Note: This in no way is meant to imply that you should accomplish everything on your list during the 2-week time period. The list is merely a means to remind you of ALL THE OTHER THINGS that you can do instead of blogging. You know, in case you need reminding.

What about the rules?!

Ok, for those of you who need RULES, here they are.

While on bloggy vacation there shall be:

1) No blogging
2) No checking your stats
3) No reading comments
4) No checking your reader. Don’t even THINK about looking at it.
5) You can choosea few of your favoriteblogs to read. You may not comment on these blogs; however, as you should ONLY be reading them for enjoyment.

Now, in the words of the sneakers, JUST DO IT.

Then check back in two weeks to read Step 2!

Jenny Blackburn. All Rights Reserved.

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Catch more of Jenny Blackburns humorous anecdotes on being a mom, a woman, and a whole lot crazy at Absolutely Bananas. If you have questions, anecdotes, or topics for On Blogging, email jenny[@]seattlemomblogs[dot]com.

The Bloggy Chiropractor 3-Step Program

Posted by Bananas On August - 18 - 2008

I confessed in my last post that I have been feeling a seriousneed for a readjustment. Something to get me and my bloggy ways back into balance.

Some of you havetold me that you’re right there with me. That you feel bogged down by blogging. Overwhelmed. Not sure what to do next.

And so, I’mkicking off a seriesof postsdevoted to thistopic.

I give you… The Bloggy Chiropractor!

You know you need a visit to the Bloggy Chiropractor when

  • You feel overwhelmed and out of control.
  • You spend most or all of your spare time blogging.
  • Your family says you blog too much.
  • You blog instead of doing your chores. Regularly.
  • You feel like blogging is taking over your life.
  • You think that blogging is hurting your relationships.
  • You feel like blogging is making you a worse mother/wife/sister/girlfriend/employee.
  • You are tempted to quit blogging altogether.
  • You feel trapped.
  • You’re ashamed of how much you blog. You hide it… you lie about it. You know it’s unhealthy but you just. can’t. stop.

You’re not alone! The Bloggy Chiropractor is HERE!

Together we can kick this blogging addiction and take control of our lives.

It is possible to blog AND have a life! Let’s prove it together!

Over the next few weeks I’ll roll out a three-step program that’s designed to get us out of the bloggy rut and back into a healthy blog/lifebalance.

I hope you’ll join me!

Step 1: Take two weeks off

That’s me in the spotlight losing my religion (Alternate title: I went to BlogHer and almost decided to quit blogging)

Posted by Bananas On August - 17 - 2008

Every year after BlogHer, two or three big-name bloggers and a whole bunch of not-so-big (but every bit as important)bloggers throw in the towel and quietly slip away into the obscurity of real life.

The rest of us bloggers howl in surprise, throw our hands in the air and gasp CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?!while deep down inside we’re wondering if next year that will be us.

This year, amidst the chaoticBlogHer swagalicious love fest, I finally got it.

I was standing in a steaming hot shower washing off a long day’s small talk and big talk and party talk when the waters seemed to part and one thought stood clear in my mind.

I need to stop blogging.

In that moment, I saw my life as it is now, and I saw it as it could be without the blog.

And, in that moment, the sans-blog life looked pretty darn good.

For the first time I honestly acknowledged the toll that blogging takes on my time, my energy, my relationships, my LIFE.

But let’s be honest with each other here; this WASN’T the first time I realized the toll that blogging takes on my time, energy, and relationships.Right? Right.

No, the difference this night is that before I always thought it was worth it. In this moment, I realize thatit isn’t.

Something about being at BlogHer made me see with frighteningclarityhow CAUGHT UP we all have become in what too often amounts to a massive popularity contest… an ultimate expression of selfishness and egomania.

“LOOK AT ME” each woman seems to shout, “I AM IMPORTANT!”

And while I believe from the bottom of my heart that every woman is important, I also believe that this realization is the beginning, not the end of our journey.

Reveling in our self-importance, our uniqueness, our specialness… stopping here is not a good thing.

Rather we should claim our importance and thenmove forward to do something important with our lives.To make a difference in the lives around us… to make our short time here meaningful.

The thing that scares me the most about blogging is that something so shallow should take up so much of my precious time.

I count myself lucky that I had this realization while in SF, because I was able to have real conversations with a handful of friends, most of whom have blogged much longer than I have. All expressed similar fears and concerns. One has since stopped blogging. Another has published her intent to back off.

And me?

I’m torn.

On one hand, I think that my in-the-shower moment was probably dead on. That I need to move on with my life.

On the other hand, I feel that maybe I can transform the role that blogging plays in my life to something better. Something enriching.

Because the truth is, there is a part of blogging that is good for me. The writing. The creativity. The introspection.

Is it possible to harness the good and minimize the bad?

I want to believe that what I need is a readjustment… a visit to the great bloggy chiropractor, if you will. So I’m on a mission to do just that. To find balance.

Over the next few weeks, I plan to do some posts here on steps that I’m taking to get myself readjusted… closer to where I want to be; to a place where blogging is contributing positively to my life.

But for now I want to hear from you. Where do you stand on this issue? Have you ever considered giving up blogging? And what are your biggest struggles in the blog/life balance?

Jenny Blackburn. All Rights Reserved.

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Catch more of Jenny Blackburns humorous anecdotes on being a mom, a woman, and a whole lot crazy at Absolutely Bananas. If you have questions, anecdotes, or topics for On Blogging, email jenny[@]seattlemomblogs[dot]com.

Survival tips for meeting bloggers IRL (In Real Life)

Posted by Bananas On July - 8 - 2008

If you’ve been blogging for very long, sooner or later you get the opportunity to meet other bloggers In Real Life (IRL), especially if you’re a member of Seattle Mom Blogs, where we like to inundate our gals with invites to lunches, brunches, cocktail hours, and everything in between. Then there’s the annual big-time event that everyone starts to talk about round about now… BlogHer. (drum roll here)

Maybe you’ve gone to one of the meet-ups. Or maybe you’ve been busy. Or maybe, just maybe you were afraid to go.

Come on, admit it. There’s something a little scary about meeting people who you’ve only had an online relationship with.

In real life you can’t control how people see you to include onlythe most flattering angles.

In real life you can’t edit your words before anyone hears them.

In real life you forget what you were going to say, snort when you’re laughing too hard, and get gas.

In real life you have to drive and remember directions and hope your skirt isn’t hiked up in the back.

Yep, there’s no doubt about it, IRL can be a stressful place. There’sa reason that Twitter and Facebook and MySpace are so popular.

And yet, I’m a big believer in the notion that meeting up IRL with women who you’ve known online is totally, completely, and 100% worth it.

Honestly, I prefer hanging with bloggers IRL to online. Here’s why.

In general, I tend to really connect with other blogging women. We GET each other. We like the same things. And, thanks to blogging, we have endless fodder for conversation.

Do you use Wordpress or Blogger? Why?

How do you stay on top of your comments?

Did you see that article about Dooce in the Wall Street Journal? And how do you feel about Dooce anyhow, be honest?

Does your family know about your blog?

Why did you start blogging?

How did you come up with the name?

Are you going to BlogHer?

And on and on and ON until it’s 2am and the bar is shutting down and still I want to keep talking.

There’s something really exciting about getting together with other bloggers; an energy that’s addictive.

Maybe it’s that many of us started blogging in order to have something that was ours and ours alone. As moms, wives, employees, consultants, sisters, daughters, and neighbors, it’s often hard to find any bit of something that we can claim as our own. Blogging is that thing. And getting together with other bloggers provides a moment of me-time amidst the chaos. A chance to connect with other women who are into the same thing we are… not to talk about our kids or our husbands or our houses or our jobs, but to talk about the passion that we share. Blogging.

So here’s my advice.

First and foremost, just do it. Get out there. Take advantage of the opportunity to meet up with other bloggers.

Secondly, try to keep from takingit too seriously. Pick out something comfortable to wear that makes you feel good, but don’t obsess about what you look like. I’ll let you in on a little secret… we all are worried about what we look like. We all wish we could’ve lost a few pounds before the event. We all are afraid of people thinking we’re way cuter in our pictures than we actually are IRL.

What matters is the connection. The being real. The laughing and being silly and talking and goofing around.

Take a deep breath, plaster a smile on your face, and introduce yourself.

Before you know it, you’ll be having a great time.

Catch more of Jenny Blackburns humorous anecdotes on being a mom, a woman, and a whole lot crazy at Absolutely Bananas. If you have questions, anecdotes, or topics for On Blogging, email jenny[@]seattlemomblogs[dot]com.

Advice for new bloggers: Taking your blog to the next level

Posted by Bananas On June - 30 - 2008

For the final part of my Essential Advice for New Bloggers series were talking about how to take your blog to the next level.

Of course I need to start off this post with a BIG, HUGE, GIGANTIC disclaimer in which I tell you that I am still trying to take my blog to the next level. So it’s not like I’m the expert here.

Still, we can learn about this topic together. Right?

So I’ve gone around to various sources and picked out the best of the best in terms of advice, guidelines, and recommendations on this topic and compiled them below. I’m also throwing in some links to my favorite resources. Finally, share your own tips and ideas!

1) Ask your readers

This can be scary, but it’s one of the very best ways to get targeted feedback about how to take YOUR blog to the next level. Finding out what your readers like and dislike about your blog is the best free advice you’ll ever get.

Of course it’s still YOUR blog; you don’t have to change everything just because someone says so. But odds are you’ll see trends and patterns in your readers’ feedback that will help you make decisions to move your blog towards greatness.

2) Learn from the A-listers

You know that one blogger, the A-lister who you subscribe to and read religiously?I want you to go, right now, and look at that blog. But this time don’t look at it as a reader, look at it as a blogger. Analyze. Evaluate. What things is this blogger doing that make his/her blog successful? Try and remember how you first found this blog? What drew you in? Why did you subscribe? What brings you back?

Read through thearchives… especially from the very early days. How has their blog changed since its inception?

Once you’ve spent some time analysing a couple of your favorite “A-list” blogs (and really, A-list is whatever you want it to be!), look at your own blog again. What can you improve? What is and isn’t working? I’m not suggesting you copy your favorite blog (because really, how dumb would THAT be?!) but the fact is you really can learn from the people who are making it.

If you’re really brave (or even if you’re not) email your favorite blogger and ask them for their insights on how they got their blog where it is today.

Some bloggers have even gone so far as to post their advice for all of us to enjoy. For example, check out:

, from Jennifer at
Growing your Traffic from Shannon at Rocks in My Dryer

If you know of others, please leave a comment and I’ll add their links here!

3) Learn from the EXPERTS

Look around at the many excellent how-to blogsthat are out there. Pick one or moreto subscribe to, and make a commitment to reading it regularly. You’ll be amazed at how much valuable information is being put out for the taking!

Check out these blogs about blogging

Check out these blogs about writing

Check out these blogs about design

Do you have a favorite how-to blog that isn’t listed here? Leave a comment and I’ll add it!

4) Ya gotta have goals

Sit down and list out everygoal you can think of for your blog. Even the silly ones. Even the really really lofty ones (”get on Oprah”, anyone?). If you’re having a hard time, here are some example goals to get you started.

  • Increase subscribership to 1,000 readers.
  • Increase web traffic to20,000 hits/ week.
  • Post quality content 5 days/week.
  • Go to BlogHer.
  • Publish a book based on my blog.
  • Become an A-list blogger.
  • Generate $100k/year in blog revenue.
  • Become a paid blogger for a major website.
  • Spend less time blogging.
  • Spend more time blogging.
  • Improve my writing.
  • Learn to use a photo-editing tool.
  • Move to Wordpress and become self-hosted.

Like I told you, there’s no goal that’s too silly or too lofty. Remember, these are your goals on which you will not be judged. Have some fun!

Now pickthree goalsto focus on. Put themin priority order.

Next, brainstorm 3 things you can do to bring your blog closer to each goal.

Here’s an example.

Goal:Increase subscribership to 1,000 readers.
How I’m going to get there:
1) Sign up for Daily Blog Tips’ blogging hero contest.
2) Guest blog on three major blogs.
3) Introduce new blogging”features” to generate excitement and momentum.

In conclusion…

And THAT, my friends, is the end of theEssential Advice for New Bloggersseries.

So, let’s discuss. What have you learned and, more importantly, what are you going to do about it?

I can’t wait to find out!

Jenny Blackburn. All Rights Reserved.

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Catch more of Jenny Blackburns humorous anecdotes on being a mom, a woman, and a whole lot crazy at Absolutely Bananas. If you have questions, anecdotes, or topics for On Blogging, email jenny[@]seattlemomblogs[dot]com.

Fitting blogging into your life without losing your mind, relationships, and waistline

Posted by Bananas On June - 10 - 2008

As part four of my Essential Advice for New Bloggers series were talking about balance. Specifically, how to balance blogging and the rest of your life.

You remember your life, right? Come on, think really hard. Oh yeah, that!

Its true, blogging has a way of creeping in, taking over, and destroying everything in its path. Sort of like termites, only more fun. Which is why its important to come up with strategies, checks, and balances to keep yourself sane and keep your blogging addiction in check.

I won’t even pretend that I know all the answers here, because I struggle with the b-word (balance) on a daily basis.

There are four main areas where we tend to spend our time “blogging.” These are; creating content, building traffic, reading blogs, and reading and responding to comments. For each, I’ve come up with some tips and tricks to help you manage your time.

1) Creating content

Of all the things to spend time on, I do believe that creating quality content is the most valuable. Still, thereare several strategies forincreasing yourefficiency when it comes to writing posts.

  • Keep a notebook
    Ever notice how your very best ideas happen while you’re driving? or in the shower? or just lying down for bed? Buy yourself a small notebook that you can take with you. Or, keep one in your car, another by your bed, and one in your purse. Whatever it takes so that you can jot down the brilliant ideas when they happen. Then when you sit down to write a post, you’ll have a whole list of ideas ready and waiting.
  • Write multiple posts at once
    Sometimes the hardest thing is getting the writing started, and once you’re up and running, the words flow like water. Writing on demand can be difficult and time consuming, because you’re forced to “get in the zone” for each and every post. It’s more efficient to get in the zone once and churn out a whole passle of posts. Then, set them up to publish at regularly scheduled intervals and take the rest of the week off!
  • Follow a posting schedule
    I learned early on that traffic dips on the weekend… hence not the best time to publish your BEST POST EVER. Set a schedule for yourself. Mine is (loosely) Monday through Friday, with a very rare post on the weekend. I try to publish my best stuff Monday or Tuesday when traffic is the highest. And holidays are rarely worth posting; half the blogosphere is offline.
  • Don’t be afraid to take a day off
    Remember your priorities. Blogging is not a job (yet, anyway), so don’t treat it like one. Repeat after me: “this is a hobby. I will not let it take over my life.” If you take a day off (or even a week) your blog will still be there when you return. I promise.
  • Use guest bloggers
    If you’re going on vacation, having a baby, or just have a lot going on, consider lining up a string of guest bloggers.

2) Building traffic and checking stats

Let’s be honest. Obsessively checking your stats fifteen or thirtytimes a daydoesn’t do anything to help you build traffic.It’s more than adequate to check them once or twice a week. Still, stats are addictive. Every morning it takes a monumental effort for me NOT to leap out of bed and check my numbers. I am a womanobsessed. But on mornings where I do succumb to the urge,I get sucked into the vortex of blogging and before I know it an hour has gone by, I haven’t showered, and CJ is hungry, grimy, and watching TV. Oh, and it’s time to leave for preschool. I just created a highly stressful and completely avoidable situation.

Set aside a specific amount of time for building traffic and analyzing your stats.
Although it’s tempting to check your stats first thing in the morning and then every time you walk past the computer or even think about blogging… this is actually NOTthe best option.

Instead, decide on an amount of time that you can afford to spend checking stats and building traffic.Next, write a list of what you hope to accomplish during this time.

For example, your list could look like this:
1) List blog on directory-type sites
2) Read articles on how to better optimize for search engines
3) Submit best posts to Stumbleupon and Kirtsy
4) Look at Google Analytics, Feedburner, and Topblogs ratings. Send thankyou emails to anyone who linked to me.

Now, set a timer for yourself, turn off your email alerts, and focus. You’ll be shocked at how little time it actually takes to accomplish what you’ve laid out!

3) Reading blogs

This is where I can spend a massive amount of time (and I suspect you probably do too)… it’s so easy to subscribe, subscribe, subscribe and POOF! before you know it you’re following a half a million blogs and spending EVERY SPARE SECOND reading them. You become stressed, pale, and weary; a shell of your vibrant former self.

The simple reality is that you cannot hope to closelyfollow 50+ blogs AND have a fulfilling life. Really. Put the thought right out of your mind.

This doesn’t mean you can’t subscribe toand/or occasionally read 50+ blogs.

It’s all about priorities.

Realistically, I can read about 5 blog posts per day. Depending on where you are with blogging, this number may be larger or smaller. It may increase and decrease with the ebbs and flows of your life. But remember, you need to be in control of this number. If you feel stressed because you have so many unread posts that you need to read, something is WRONG.

Fortunately, I have a few steps that you can take to bring sanity to your reader.

First, ask yourself WHY you’re reading blogs.

This may seem silly or obvious, but it’s actually really important that you’re aware of your goals behind blog reading. And, you’ll find that you need to re-ask this question as your blogging evolves.

You might find that you’re reading blogs in order to leave comments and drive traffic to your blog and because you’re building relationships and friendships with other bloggers. In this case, reading blogs will go hand-in-hand with commenting… and you’ll rarely read a blog without commenting. You will likely read a higher quantity of blogs, with less concern for their relative quality.

When you’re in this stage, remember that you don’t have to read every single post in order to accomplish your goals. Reading and commenting on one post a week from each blog that you followwill have the same impact as reading and commenting on every single post. Try it! You’ll be surprised.

Considersetting aside one or two evenings per week where you dedicate time to reading and commenting on as many posts as possible; both those you subscribe to as well as some new ones. This works well because you can get into the mood of reading blogs and really focus your energies. Then, the rest of the week, you don’t have to worry about what you’re missing and can focus on your other priorities.

Organize your feeds into categories that work for you.

Another option that can be helpful when you subscribe to a lot of blogs is to organize your feeds in a way that works for you. I’ve heard of some people whoorganize their feeds by days of the week; for example on Monday they might readfive blogs, on Tuesday five other blogs, and so on.

For a long time I’ve organized my blogs into the following groups;

  • Favorites. These are my current favorites; the blogs that I naturally gravitate towards and WANT to read whenever they update. The list changes fairly regularly as I grow tired of some blogs and become infatuated with new ones.I try to keep this list to approximately 5 blogs. When I find I’m not as enthusiastic about checking for updates on a blog, Imove it to a different category. These are the ONLY blogs whose posts I read immediately when they publish.
  • Once a week. As the name implies, I read these blogsapproximately once a week. Sometimes more, usually less. Often blogs that were originally in my “favorites” category get moved here when I tire of them.
  • When the mood strikes. I don’t read these blogs on any set schedule, but they’re there for when I’m bored, have downtime, or am looking for inspiration. Often blogs that were originally in my “favorites” category get moved here when I tire of them.
  • People I know. I try to keep tabs on these blogs because I have a personal connection with the author. I check them anywhere from daily to weekly to monthly depending on how much time I have.

4) Reading and responding to comments

Again, this is an area where you can potentially spend a lot of time. The worst thing I ever did was set my email to ding whenever a new comment comes in. I’m at the dinner table and ding! a comment and it’s ALL I can do to keep myself planted in my seat. I WANT TO READ THAT COMMENT!

Comments are wonderful, gratifying, and fun. However, they’re a little bit like crack;addictive and not entirely healthy.

Here’s some basic rules for keeping comments in their (delightful) place.

  • Turn off the ding. Seriously… turn it off. If you don’t hear it, it won’t take your attention away from the other,more important stuff that you’re doing.
  • Shut off your computer when it’s not “blogging time.” This makes it harder to “quickly check” your comment count and then get sucked right in.
  • Set aside time for reading and responding to comments. This is much more efficient than handling them as they come in.

Final words of wisdom

As someone who’s been doing this blogging thing for a while… I’ve had to learn the hard way. It’s easy to get sucked in and when you do, your life suffers.

It’s worth putting some safeguards in place to ensure that blogging is truly a compliment to your life, and not the other way around.

Set rules for yourself if necessary. Here’s some that I’d propose;

  • No blogging in the evening until the kids are in bed and dishes are done.
  • No blogging first thing in the morning. Is that really how you want to kick off your day?
  • When you feel burned out, take a break. Blogging is not a job until it pays you lots of money.

Now it’s your turn. What guidelines do you have for keeping blogging from taking over your life?

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