I’m all for freedom – as long as it’s done responsibly. I’m about as open-minded as it comes, but I don’t need to see ta-tas hanging out of a coffee shop window when I drive by with my kids. There is a reason that most of the “bikini barista” places have signs outside reading: NO VIEDO OR PICTURES PLEASE. It’s because our society sexualizes everything, including these girls. It’s ridiculous when you think about it. If I want to see boobies, I’ll go to Hooters.

Albeit capitalism, it is awful IMHO.

“These girls aren’t nowhere as judgmental or low class as some of these people who are opposing it. GOOD DAY!”

I almost fell out of my chair. RIGHT. Maybe they aren’t low class nor judgmental, but I most CERTAINLY would question their upbringing, parental involvement through their tender years, and would NOT want my daughter hanging out with a single one that thinks exploiting her body for money (there is a theme to this, you know) is an “ok” thing to do.

Yes. They should be subject to the same rules of other adult oriented businesses. And if a single owner had a smidgen of couth in their blood, they would not have the giant windows facing towards the street. Have a social conscience. Please.

Before you go judging yourself, perhaps you should read a little more carefully. I never said that these places should not exist, I have said over and over again that I think they should be subject to the same regulations and standards as other ADULT – oriented businesses!

And I’m not going to sit here and pretend that those girls are serving ONLY coffee – which doesn not make me a “prude” in your esteemed opinion, it makes me aware and cautious of they way I want my children to view women.

I hope you feel better about making such a “grown up” comment and I’d have emailed you privately, but the email you provided did not work.

GOOD DAY,
Carrie

That does not make me easily offended, that makes me a MOM.

And this isn’t about “worrying” it’s about action. Worry doesn’t do anyone any good. Are you worrying about poverty and war? Or are you taking action? This is one issue we can take action about. And quite frankly, less sexual exploitation would lead to less casual sex, less unwanted pregnancy, less poor single moms, less poverty….

I agree with Carrie, they should have the same regulations as other “adult” businesses.

As for how to explain it to my kids though? Our kids know that we have certain “rules” and standards in our house. When they see other people “breaking” those rules, we just explain that those people don’t have our same rules. That way it becomes clear that it’s still NOT okay for them, but they don’t become judgmental either. We don’t say that it’s okay for that person to do it, we just say, they don’t have the same rules.