Comments on: That’s one point for the Mommy and no points for the daycare http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/ A Community for Blogging Mothers in Greater Seattle and the East Side Sun, 31 Jan 2010 06:16:18 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: HollowSquirrel http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3349 HollowSquirrel Mon, 19 May 2008 12:54:35 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3349 Awesome, Babboo. My favorite response though is his "went" for how his day was. That sounds like something my son would say. Awesome, Babboo.

My favorite response though is his “went” for how his day was. That sounds like something my son would say.

]]> By: Lin http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3334 Lin Sat, 17 May 2008 14:27:16 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3334 Your preschool should have told you - it's really not OK to let this go as it can be really upsetting to a child, and - here's the biggie - can lead to the bitten child trying out the behavior. I understand the policy of not telling you who was the biter - the isolation and over reaction can be an issue, and biting really is a normal developmental stage for a lot of kids. But it also can be a continuing problem and the school needs to be able to reassure you that they do address it appropriately, without necessarily naming the child. That said, when my child was being bitten (repeatedly!) and the school said they often didn't see it, we did two things - we taught our kid to yell "No Bob, No Bite!", and we kept pushing at the school, questioning what they were doing, the ratios of kids to teachers. To their credit they quickly put a "shadow" teacher int he classroom - assigned to watch the biter and intervene at first, and then for a while assigned to watch my kid, as that seemed a better way to catch the behavior. All worked out, my kid felt empowered, and then happy cuz of the extra attention, and the biter eventually learned and moved on. (Wait till the potty words go bad.) Your preschool should have told you – it’s really not OK to let this go as it can be really upsetting to a child, and – here’s the biggie – can lead to the bitten child trying out the behavior.
I understand the policy of not telling you who was the biter – the isolation and over reaction can be an issue, and biting really is a normal developmental stage for a lot of kids. But it also can be a continuing problem and the school needs to be able to reassure you that they do address it appropriately, without necessarily naming the child.
That said, when my child was being bitten (repeatedly!) and the school said they often didn’t see it, we did two things – we taught our kid to yell “No Bob, No Bite!”, and we kept pushing at the school, questioning what they were doing, the ratios of kids to teachers. To their credit they quickly put a “shadow” teacher int he classroom – assigned to watch the biter and intervene at first, and then for a while assigned to watch my kid, as that seemed a better way to catch the behavior. All worked out, my kid felt empowered, and then happy cuz of the extra attention, and the biter eventually learned and moved on. (Wait till the potty words go bad.)

]]> By: CPA Mom http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3311 CPA Mom Fri, 16 May 2008 18:52:46 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3311 I have to agree with Stephanie above(http://mommiverse.blogsome.com/) because I had a biter. Don't hate the biter (just a little joke). The other moms treated us the same way. He was actually expelled from two schools when he was 2. Seriously! I love it when Eeyore tells me who hurt her - it's like we're pulling one over on the daycare who won't release names! I have to agree with Stephanie above(http://mommiverse.blogsome.com/) because I had a biter. Don’t hate the biter (just a little joke). The other moms treated us the same way. He was actually expelled from two schools when he was 2. Seriously!

I love it when Eeyore tells me who hurt her – it’s like we’re pulling one over on the daycare who won’t release names!

]]> By: Professor Art Nerd http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3299 Professor Art Nerd Fri, 16 May 2008 12:05:56 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3299 My nephew is a bit older than Babboo, and just wait till the next stage- Liam embellishes (so much nicer than "lies", no?) his stories. It always starts out with the truth- \What happened to your arm, buddy? Brian smacked me. Oh yeah, what happened then? Nancy put him in time out. She smacked his butt! He cried and cried. Most of it is bull, but he loves telling that story! My nephew is a bit older than Babboo, and just wait till the next stage- Liam embellishes (so much nicer than “lies”, no?) his stories. It always starts out with the truth-
\What happened to your arm, buddy?
Brian smacked me.
Oh yeah, what happened then?
Nancy put him in time out. She smacked his butt! He cried and cried.

Most of it is bull, but he loves telling that story!

]]> By: Mel http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3287 Mel Thu, 15 May 2008 21:17:47 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3287 I have never commented before but the timeliness of this blog had me laughing. My child has also bit another little girl at daycare (his only time so far...phew) and that little girl came right up to me when I went to pick him up from daycare to tell me "C bit me and he got in time-out" So there was no hiding for my little guy :) But last night I went to pick him up from daycare and a little girl, being held by her mother, says "C hit me." C came right over to me and said "No mommy, M did it" What a little liar...and at 19 months too. I was told that he really didn't hit her he just touched her...phew again. I have never commented before but the timeliness of this blog had me laughing. My child has also bit another little girl at daycare (his only time so far…phew) and that little girl came right up to me when I went to pick him up from daycare to tell me “C bit me and he got in time-out” So there was no hiding for my little guy :)

But last night I went to pick him up from daycare and a little girl, being held by her mother, says “C hit me.” C came right over to me and said “No mommy, M did it” What a little liar…and at 19 months too. I was told that he really didn’t hit her he just touched her…phew again.

]]> By: DeAnn http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3286 DeAnn Thu, 15 May 2008 20:40:52 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3286 Oh my word, this is awesome. I love that he's all big and tattling! ;) Oh my word, this is awesome. I love that he’s all big and tattling! ;)

]]> By: Jezer http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3283 Jezer Thu, 15 May 2008 19:14:35 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3283 Yes. And Al also rats himSELF out! Yes. And Al also rats himSELF out!

]]> By: Liza http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3282 Liza Thu, 15 May 2008 18:35:01 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3282 Well, you know that after the broken arm, when Noah told us he was scared of his teacher -- he named names -- we yanked him out of there as soon as we could find an alternative. Re: biting. In Noah's baby day care room, it was a big problem, especially for the biggest (read: getting bored) kids. We bought a board book called, "Teeth Are Not for Biting." Noah still "reads" it to us and likes telling us that biting hurts and biting is naughty. Well, you know that after the broken arm, when Noah told us he was scared of his teacher — he named names — we yanked him out of there as soon as we could find an alternative.

Re: biting. In Noah’s baby day care room, it was a big problem, especially for the biggest (read: getting bored) kids. We bought a board book called, “Teeth Are Not for Biting.” Noah still “reads” it to us and likes telling us that biting hurts and biting is naughty.

]]> By: Carrie http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3280 Carrie Thu, 15 May 2008 18:18:48 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3280 I can't believe how much my (almost) 14-month-old can say already. I'm afraid of him getting bit at daycare, which I'm sure will happen sooner or later, but I'm also afraid of HIM being the one that does the biting. Our daycare has a "3-bite" policy. If he bites 3 times he gets kicked out. I can’t believe how much my (almost) 14-month-old can say already. I’m afraid of him getting bit at daycare, which I’m sure will happen sooner or later, but I’m also afraid of HIM being the one that does the biting. Our daycare has a “3-bite” policy. If he bites 3 times he gets kicked out.

]]> By: Jilt http://seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/comment-page-1/#comment-3278 Jilt Thu, 15 May 2008 18:02:53 +0000 http://www.seattlemomblogs.com/2008/05/14/thats-one-point-for-the-mommy-and-no-points-for-the-daycare/#comment-3278 P was a biter. Usually when another "friend" tried to take a toy he was playing with. It's our daycare's policy to let the parents of the biter and bitee know what happened (without giving names, of course). It always mortified me when I'd get a report that he bit someone. We were even called to the director's office once because of it. It was so hard to discipline since we didn't see the biting behavior at home or outside of school. It was a phase - thank goodness it passed, but to all moms who have kids who've been bitten, I'm sorry. Since I can't apologize to the kids P bit, I'll apologize to you. P was a biter. Usually when another “friend” tried to take a toy he was playing with. It’s our daycare’s policy to let the parents of the biter and bitee know what happened (without giving names, of course). It always mortified me when I’d get a report that he bit someone.

We were even called to the director’s office once because of it. It was so hard to discipline since we didn’t see the biting behavior at home or outside of school. It was a phase – thank goodness it passed, but to all moms who have kids who’ve been bitten, I’m sorry. Since I can’t apologize to the kids P bit, I’ll apologize to you.

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