Comments on: It’s a good thing my reviews are only yearly

By: Livncare

Livncare — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 02:12:45 +0000

I am so sad so many of you have commented that this story makes you “afraid” to have a child. I just had my first – and yes I was afraid (we all are) – but it is the single greatest thing I EVER did! Yes, my colleagues look at me differently and sometimes it hurts. I totally emphathize with this blog….but sometimes there is admiration too. I’ll never forget the day I told one of my toughest clients I was pregnant – and he HUGGED me! There were actual tears in his eyes when he congratulated me. Not to mention that each time my daughter looks at me, I realize no one else’s perspective really matters. In her eyes, I’m the BEST, and that’s better than any “thumb’s up.” It’s a feeling money can’t buy. Unfortunately, if you had to buy it, I couldn’t afford it, but lucky for us some of the best things in life are still free.

By: MamaToo

MamaToo — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 00:20:45 +0000

Hmmm…. does your “career advancement” include a move to a better opportunity at another company?!? There are many out there who aren’t like this – perhaps they deserve a chance to give you a real PERFORMANCE review & raise.

By: Christar

Christar — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 20:06:13 +0000

I cannot believe your boss did that. Seriously, so offensive and discriminatory. I don’t know if I would have been able to sit there with composure the way you did, but I’m so glad that you stood up for yourself.
Good for you!

By: janet

janet — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 21:35:26 +0000

ditto on the outrage!! that is wrong wrong wrong and probably illegal.

By: Marriage-101

Marriage-101 — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 18:55:49 +0000

Wow. I’m with Pink Herring and Frema. WTF? I hate that employers like this exist and that they’re so prevalent in our society. It makes me fear having babies.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 18:45:46 +0000

This is what scares me about being a working mom. I don’t think I will ever stay home either because of financial stability or because of my mental stability so I feel that once I become a parent I will be an in the office mom. My position requires me to travel and I get nervous about what that will mean in regards to my life once we have children.

And the big boss. What a tool! I had a direct boss that gave high fives. Sometimes he even threw up a ten. Not shitting you. We started a tally of high fives.

By: Erika

Erika — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 17:55:39 +0000

Wow. I’m shocked too. I would have been too angry to respond. It would have been interesting to find out specifically the reasons he thinks you cannot advance your career. HIGHLY OFFENDED, INDEED!

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hola, isabel » Blog Archive » Words that end in “urple” — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 16:35:51 +0000

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By: Danielle

Danielle — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 03:02:41 +0000

Now you have me thinking…I wonder if my boss thinks the same way about me too? There are very few women where I work to begin with, and I’m the only one who can’t travel regularly because I have a child at home. Luckily I have what I think is a very understanding boss, and my personal situation has never been brought up in a negative way.

Good for you for standing up for yourself and demanding that his statement be removed from your review. I don’t know if I would have had the balls to do that.

By: Frema

Frema — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 22:18:17 +0000

I agree with Pink Herring: that is definitely discrimination, especially since it sounds like that was just a blanket statement, without any proof to back up his claim.

If my boss ever says anything like that to me, you better believe I’d be reporting him to HR.